the curiously relatable question of: am I antagonising the goose?

Inspired by a true event; this quirky pun is the essence of the question: are we perhaps aggravating bad behaviours in others subconsciously?

This question has been pulled from one of our earlier podcasts, and it is with thanks to my son, Sage, for antagonising the goose and bringing it about! 

While on a trip to an animal farm, I heard a sudden, high pitched screaming that I recognised to come from my son. At this moment, he came bolting around the corner, snot and tears streaming down a terrified little face.
He had become too bold with a flock of geese and tried to chase them…of course causing them to turn around and chase him back! 

It makes us think though; what might we be doing that could be antagonising others around us?

Where might I be antagonising the goose ?
What we have come to realize through our many interactions with teams and groups of closely knit people, is that we tend to do pin sized things that antagonise another. These things build up and can result in a wild goose chase.

If we can practice some awareness towards the reactions of others, we might be able to understand and respond, most appropriately to them. 

There’s some simple principles to remember:

* we succeed with and through people.

* Happiness in relationships is more likely an outcome of networks that have been built with a foundation of awareness and connection. 

We can probably all agree that a draining relationship can easily be spotted when you are the outsider, looking at the interactions between two people. But as the insider, it can actually be pretty hard to spot those moments where you’re antagonising another.

When the antagonising begins, so does the eroding of the relationship. 

Here’s some examples of how we might be bringing out the goose in others:

Where might I be antagonising the goose?
We succeed through good relationships. And we create this when we are able to avoid bringing out that goose, antagonising the thing that sets another off.

A side thought is placed here by William James who says, “Wisdom is the art of knowing what to overlook”.
Know what it is that you should overlook. Sometimes we pick on very small things within another’s behaviour that overshadows the best parts of them that add value.

Let’s be wise, and don’t antagonise! Always be the adult, and choose to see the beauty in another. Strive to bring it out every time you possibly can. 

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